And we wonder why nothing is happening…

Sometimes I feel like knocking my head against the wall.  And it’s because the most important answers are often the most elegant and obvious.  Problem is, we are often so caught up in our own heads, To Do Lists, and busy schedules, we don’t see the obvious or the big picture.

Not a good place to be if you’re trying to Live, Work  & Connect at a Higher Level(tm).

That’s exactly what happened to me this morning.  I was working on a document that had to be finished, printed, and mailed in order to meet an  important deadline. (Nothing gets my attention like a deadline. You?) 

I was ready (I thought) to follow the three easy steps, get this task done, and move on to the next one at hand.  I prepared the document with ease and with a flick of the mouse hit “print.”  I was on my way, knocking this little assignment out.  I anticipated the satifsying sound of the printer cranking up and spitting out The Document.

But after a few seconds…nothing.

So I clicked “print” again (as if that would help). Still nothing.  Hmmm. I checked the printer to see if it was on. It was. I lifted the paper tray to make sure it was loaded with paper and had plenty of ink. It was and it did.  I clicked “print” again. Still nothing.

Then,  of course, the obvious hit me between the eyes.  I had been using my laptop the night before to watch a show in the living room. I had returned it to my office and plugged in the power, but the cord to the printer had yet to be connected. D’oh!  And that’s where the headline comes from. Because at that moment, I remembered some pretty important advice. You can apply it to electronic devices and you can apply to life and work.  I share this with my readers, clients and audiences daily:  NOTHING happens if you’re not connected.

Okay, sure, certain things can keep rolling along. You’ll get things done. You’ll pour yourself another cup of coffee and continue knocking out the To Do’s and meeting deadlines. But you could be missing out on something even bigger – and burning yourself out.  I know because I’ve done it.

We need people in our lives. That’s where the really good stuff happens.

In fact, some experts believe that as much as 95% of what we accomplish each day is either a direct or indirect result of the people with whom we are connected. That includes our teachers, mentors, parents, friends, colleagues, suppliers, and a host of other connections. The other 5% is us.

Humbling, right?

Yet it’s so easy to launch ambitiously, if not blindly,  into our daily routines and To Do Lists (just like I did this morning) and totally miss out on something obvious: the importance of being connected.

With that, I will leave you. I think it’s time to get on the phone and reach out to a long-lost friend.
How can I help you become better connected?  Of course, if you haven’t already, get yourself a copy of my award-winning success guide, The Intentional Networker: Attracting Powerful Relationships,  Referrals & Results in Business (available at BookPeople in Austin, Texas or via your favorite online book retailer). Or let’s talk  about how we can work together.  I offer one-on-one coaching, group sessions, and workshops. And I’d be delighted to present at your organization’s next professional development or leadership conference.  How do you know if I’m any good?  Read what my clients say right here.

Photo above courtesy of Glenn Carstens-Peters on Unsplash


8 Responses to And we wonder why nothing is happening…
  1. Kali Rourke
    January 22, 2018 | 10:22 am

    Excellent reminder, and when you add the recent studies showing that being connected to other people is the number one predictor of a long life (and hopefully a happier one!), there is even more reason to reach out!

    • pattid
      January 22, 2018 | 11:25 am

      You are correct! Staying in touch, doing group activities, having real conversations is one of the many tickets to longevity!

  2. LL
    January 22, 2018 | 10:31 am

    Excellent reminder. Counterpoint might be this: digital connection (read FB, Twitter, Instagram, etc) have taken “networking” to an unsustainable level for many. Sheer volume is not always better. Particularly when it becomes so overwhelming that we fail to stay connected to those who really count.

    • pattid
      January 22, 2018 | 11:24 am

      You are so right! Many of my wise colleagues are intentionally going into their social media feeds and unfollowing people with whom they feel no connection (or maybe don’t even know or remember). Being over-connected is something our human brains just cannot handle! It’s on my To Do List to do something similar. Bringing Intentional Networking principles to social media. Thanks, Lindy, for your comment!

  3. Cameron Babberney
    January 22, 2018 | 2:20 pm

    Hi Patti, beautifully said. I initially read “being connected” from a meditation point of view–you know, connected to Earth and Sky and self kinda thing. However you slice it, connection is a tool for inspired living. Thank you

    • pattid
      January 22, 2018 | 2:37 pm

      Ooohhh! That’s good, Cameron. You do have to be “connected” in all ways – to yourself and to whatever Force guides you.

  4. Jon Mertz
    January 22, 2018 | 2:54 pm

    A great example, Patti, and a solid example. We need to be connected to make good things happen. When we are connected to the right people, the results are electric. When we are connected to the wrong people, we blow circuits. We need to connect and do so with people who can make us, and what we are doing, better. Thanks! Jon

    • pattid
      January 22, 2018 | 3:28 pm

      As usual, you are spot on, Jon! There are connections that energize – and connections that deplete, befuddle, and/or drive us batty. Reason to be clear on what you need, what you can offer and what connections are best for you. Thanks for your comment!

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