Category Archives: preparing for networking events

Dear Introverts

I’m writing to you today because I want to tell you how much I appreciate – and understand – you. And because I have a few thoughts and ideas that might help you converse and connect with greater effectiveness, ease, and confidence. So here goes. 

  1. Give yourself some credit and believe in yourself.  I have numerous friends who are introverts (I’m half introvert myself) and regularly meet with, speak to, and coach them.  They are some of my favorite clients and friends!  One gentleman I

Networking Lessons from the BP MS150

Valuable lessons about networking – and life – can come from unexpected places. I learned and was reminded of this as I participated in – no, scratch that – endured this year’s BP MS150 cycle ride from Houston to Austin, Texas. This ride, the largest of its kind in North America, raises awareness and funds for the treatment and cure for MS.

Here are a few of those lessons:

  1. It pays to be well-prepared. I’ve done this ride a few times and compared to previous

When, where and how should I network?

Now there’s a loaded question.  It’s one I get asked a lot, particularly by people who are in a frantic state about their careers and businesses, are new in town, or are new to the whole notion of networking.  If you want a traditional answer on which networking events you should consider attending, read Chapter 7 in my book The Intentional Networker.  It offers some specific and valuable insights on networking and standing out in the crowd.

But this isn’t meant to be a commercial …

A new way to look at life’s most pressing problems

What’s scarier than walking into a roomful of strangers?  I’ll tell you what: the anxiety that takes place before you actually walk into said room. Ever experienced that?  Ever notice how the nerves, jitters, worries, and negative self-talk that take place before a potentially stressful event or encounter are generally worse than the actual experience itself?  Performers, athletes, speakers, brain surgeons: they know this.  Some even thrive on it and leverage it.

I’m no psychologist or human behavior expert, but I do know about fright, …

My gift to you – today only – February 7

Have you read my award-winning book The Intentional Networker(tm): Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals & Results in Business? If not, today’s your lucky day.  No more excuses!  Right now you can download the Kindle version absolutely FREE on Amazon. That’s right!  Click here this minute to grab your copy.  And be sure to tell your friends and colleagues so they don’t miss out. This offer ends at midnight tonight – and it may not return.

What makes The Intentional Networker different than other networking books?  …

Two anxiety-busting ideas

Let’s get real here.  Really, truly real.  And let’s do it by starting with this:  What frightens you? Freaks you out?  Leaves your palms sweaty, your mouth dry as whole wheat toast, your heart racing – and not in a good way?

Public speaking and snakes are two things most people fear — more so than death itself. But I’m convinced there’s something else that can be even scarier:  Stepping solo into a room full of strangers.  Especially when those who are already there seem …

Ebook giveaway: The Intentional Networker(tm) on Kindle

First, I hope all of you are headed into a Labor Day Weekend filled with fun, relaxation, family time, quiet time, or whatever it is you’re seeking.

Second, if curling up with your Kindle is on the agenda, here’s a free offer you won’t want to miss:

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Who should read this book?  Anyone

Are you experiencing conversation? Or just chatter?

While attending several events over the last few months I absorbed some powerful lessons about socializing and networking. And ironically the lessons were taught to me by the introverts in the room — or as a by-product of my own occasional introverted tendencies.

One lesson came in the form of a question:  When interacting with others, are you in conversation –real conversation that allows you to connect? Or are you just engaged in mindless chatter?

Chatter? Or conversation?

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One introvert I conversed with …

Are you stuck in a self-imposed rut?

Ever been in a situation where you saw only one way to reach your goal, it just wasn’t working, and you couldn’t find a solution? My dog Maggie alerted me to a situation like this recently. I was working in my home office and heard her barking out in the back yard. It wasn’t her crazed, “Squirrel!!!” bark. It was her “Something’s up! Come quickly!” bark.

Harnessing the power of slowing down, being still

I commented earlier this week on my Intentional Networker™ fan page about how much I’ve been thinking about the value of stillness. And by stillness, I mean slowing down the pace; setting intentions, and then allowing time to get quiet, reflect, and think.  It’s not about stopping everything, checking out completely, or giving up. It’s about doing “the work” then becoming open and receptive to ideas, aha moments, experiences, and even exchanges and connections.

Case in point: I was at the NSA convention in Indianapolis