Category Archives: Making connections

Ebook giveaway: The Intentional Networker(tm) on Kindle

First, I hope all of you are headed into a Labor Day Weekend filled with fun, relaxation, family time, quiet time, or whatever it is you’re seeking.

Second, if curling up with your Kindle is on the agenda, here’s a free offer you won’t want to miss:

Today and tomorrow only (August 29 & 30)  go to Amazon and download the Kindle edition of The Intentional Networker: Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals & Results in Business absolutely FREE.  No catch.

Who should read this book?  Anyone

Are you experiencing conversation? Or just chatter?

While attending several events over the last few months I absorbed some powerful lessons about socializing and networking. And ironically the lessons were taught to me by the introverts in the room — or as a by-product of my own occasional introverted tendencies.

One lesson came in the form of a question:  When interacting with others, are you in conversation –real conversation that allows you to connect? Or are you just engaged in mindless chatter?

Chatter? Or conversation?

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One introvert I conversed with …

What will people remember and appreciate about you?

Have you ever remembered someone fondly because of something they remembered fondly about you? I have. And it feels really good.

Last weekend I lost one of those people.

My home town of Chisholm, Minnesota recently held an all-class reunion that I wasn’t able to attend. But thanks to technology, I was able to text back and forth with classmates and hometown friends, send and receive photos and videos, and monitor the goings-on via Facebook.   As they say, it was almost like being there.

With …

Are you stuck in a self-imposed rut?

Ever been in a situation where you saw only one way to reach your goal, it just wasn’t working, and you couldn’t find a solution? My dog Maggie alerted me to a situation like this recently. I was working in my home office and heard her barking out in the back yard. It wasn’t her crazed, “Squirrel!!!” bark. It was her “Something’s up! Come quickly!” bark.

Harnessing the power of slowing down, being still

I commented earlier this week on my Intentional Networker™ fan page about how much I’ve been thinking about the value of stillness. And by stillness, I mean slowing down the pace; setting intentions, and then allowing time to get quiet, reflect, and think.  It’s not about stopping everything, checking out completely, or giving up. It’s about doing “the work” then becoming open and receptive to ideas, aha moments, experiences, and even exchanges and connections.

Case in point: I was at the NSA convention in Indianapolis

The benefits of a solid support system

Sometimes networking isn’t just a business thing. It’s also very much about surviving and thriving as a human being, in good times and in bad.

I wrote The Intentional Networker: Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals & Results in Business because so many of my clients and colleagues kept asking me the same questions. They all wanted to know

What really good relationships require

I’m a creative person at heart. And among the many lessons I’ve learned over the years about creativity is that the really stellar aha’s and ideas and the really profound and impactful work have one huge requirement: time.  Time to relax. Time to think. Time to not think. Time (as my late friend and mentor Anne Durrum Robinson would put it) to cogitate.  And of course time to do the necessary work as you execute the idea.

Networking, connecting, and building solid relationships can have …

Networking as an introvert, extrovert or both

Let’s clear up a myth once and for all. Networking isn’t just for extroverts. Not at all. Many of my most savvy, valuable, and delightful friends and colleagues are actually introverts. I’m usually taken aback when they tell me this.  What’s more, I may be known as a connector and networking expert, but I’m smack dab on the cusp of introvert/extrovert.  I love being out with people, connecting and conversing. But there comes a defining moment where all I want is a quiet room and …

What’s happening in your personal circle?

If you read my last post and took it to heart, I hope you’re thinking about what steps you can take to improve the way you present and conduct yourself as you network and build business relationships.  If you haven’t read it I highly recommend you do so now. Even if you are a seasoned networker, it’s so easy to become complacent or fall into bad habits. (Or maybe the habits you developed are outdated or never worked in the first place.)

Shortly after I …

A question to ponder as you network

If you’re like me you have more professional development books, CD’s, podcasts, and DVD’s in your library than you can keep up with.  After surveying my inventory, getting intentional, and weeding out the items that no longer interest me, I’m on a sincere quest to get caught up. Today I was listening to one of the National Speaker Association’s Voices of Experience CDs (September 2011 if you must know — yes, I’m that far behind). I was listening to the segment in which Brian Walter,