Category Archives: Making connections

Two anxiety-busting ideas

Let’s get real here.  Really, truly real.  And let’s do it by starting with this:  What frightens you? Freaks you out?  Leaves your palms sweaty, your mouth dry as whole wheat toast, your heart racing – and not in a good way?

Public speaking and snakes are two things most people fear — more so than death itself. But I’m convinced there’s something else that can be even scarier:  Stepping solo into a room full of strangers.  Especially when those who are already there seem …

Let’s talk about it

Today I’ll attempt to keep my post short and sweet. Not because I don’t have a lot to say, but because I want you to spend more time thinking about it than reading about it.

The topic?  Your conversations.  (Yes, I know I wrote about this topic back in August, but this post offers yet another twist.)

While attending an NSA Austin event this past week a woman at my table, someone relatively new to the group, commented that she really liked our meetings …

Ebook giveaway: The Intentional Networker(tm) on Kindle

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Who should read this book?  Anyone

Are you experiencing conversation? Or just chatter?

While attending several events over the last few months I absorbed some powerful lessons about socializing and networking. And ironically the lessons were taught to me by the introverts in the room — or as a by-product of my own occasional introverted tendencies.

One lesson came in the form of a question:  When interacting with others, are you in conversation –real conversation that allows you to connect? Or are you just engaged in mindless chatter?

Chatter? Or conversation?

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One introvert I conversed with …

What will people remember and appreciate about you?

Have you ever remembered someone fondly because of something they remembered fondly about you? I have. And it feels really good.

Last weekend I lost one of those people.

My home town of Chisholm, Minnesota recently held an all-class reunion that I wasn’t able to attend. But thanks to technology, I was able to text back and forth with classmates and hometown friends, send and receive photos and videos, and monitor the goings-on via Facebook.   As they say, it was almost like being there.

With …

Are you stuck in a self-imposed rut?

Ever been in a situation where you saw only one way to reach your goal, it just wasn’t working, and you couldn’t find a solution? My dog Maggie alerted me to a situation like this recently. I was working in my home office and heard her barking out in the back yard. It wasn’t her crazed, “Squirrel!!!” yip. It was her more authoritative, lower-pitched “Something’s up! Come quickly!” bark.

Networking tips from nature

I went outside and looked over the deck railing. Down in the grass was a young …

Harnessing the power of slowing down, being still

I commented earlier this week on my Intentional Networker™ fan page about how much I’ve been thinking about the value of stillness. And by stillness, I mean slowing down the pace; setting intentions, and then allowing time to get quiet, reflect, and think.  It’s not about stopping everything, checking out completely, or giving up. It’s about doing “the work” then becoming open and receptive to ideas, aha moments, experiences, and even exchanges and connections.

Case in point: I was at the NSA convention in Indianapolis

The benefits of a solid support system

Sometimes networking isn’t just a business thing. It’s also very much about surviving and thriving as a human being, in good times and in bad.

I wrote The Intentional Networker: Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals & Results in Business because so many of my clients and colleagues kept asking me the same questions. They all wanted to know

What really good relationships require

I’m a creative person at heart. And among the many lessons I’ve learned over the years about creativity is that the really stellar aha’s and ideas and the really profound and impactful work have one huge requirement: time.  Time to relax. Time to think. Time to not think. Time (as my late friend and mentor Anne Durrum Robinson would put it) to cogitate.  And of course time to do the necessary work as you execute the idea.

Networking, connecting, and building solid relationships can have …

Networking as an introvert, extrovert or both

Let’s clear up a myth once and for all. Networking isn’t just for extroverts. Not at all. Many of my most savvy, valuable, and delightful friends and colleagues are actually introverts. I’m usually taken aback when they tell me this.  What’s more, I may be known as a connector and networking expert, but I’m smack dab on the cusp of introvert/extrovert.  I love being out with people, connecting and conversing. But there comes a defining moment where all I want is a quiet room and …