Category Archives: law of attraction

Are you experiencing conversation? Or just chatter?

While attending several events over the last few months I absorbed some powerful lessons about socializing and networking. And ironically the lessons were taught to me by the introverts in the room — or as a by-product of my own occasional introverted tendencies.

One lesson came in the form of a question:  When interacting with others, are you in conversation –real conversation that allows you to connect? Or are you just engaged in mindless chatter?

Chatter? Or conversation?

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One introvert I conversed with …

Are you stuck in a self-imposed rut?

Ever been in a situation where you saw only one way to reach your goal, it just wasn’t working, and you couldn’t find a solution? My dog Maggie alerted me to a situation like this recently. I was working in my home office and heard her barking out in the back yard. It wasn’t her crazed, “Squirrel!!!” yip. It was her more authoritative, lower-pitched “Something’s up! Come quickly!” bark.

Networking tips from nature

I went outside and looked over the deck railing. Down in the grass was a young …

What really good relationships require

I’m a creative person at heart. And among the many lessons I’ve learned over the years about creativity is that the really stellar aha’s and ideas and the really profound and impactful work have one huge requirement: time.  Time to relax. Time to think. Time to not think. Time (as my late friend and mentor Anne Durrum Robinson would put it) to cogitate.  And of course time to do the necessary work as you execute the idea.

Networking, connecting, and building solid relationships can have …

What’s happening in your personal circle?

If you read my last post and took it to heart, I hope you’re thinking about what steps you can take to improve the way you present and conduct yourself as you network and build business relationships.  If you haven’t read it I highly recommend you do so now. Even if you are a seasoned networker, it’s so easy to become complacent or fall into bad habits. (Or maybe the habits you developed are outdated or never worked in the first place.)

Shortly after I …

A question to ponder as you network

If you’re like me you have more professional development books, CD’s, podcasts, and DVD’s in your library than you can keep up with.  After surveying my inventory, getting intentional, and weeding out the items that no longer interest me, I’m on a sincere quest to get caught up. Today I was listening to one of the National Speaker Association’s Voices of Experience CDs (September 2011 if you must know — yes, I’m that far behind). I was listening to the segment in which Brian Walter,

The person everyone is glad they know. Or not.

In my book, The Intentional Networker, I tell the story of a woman who is so eager to be liked and accepted she actually makes a bit of a spectacle of herself.  In fact, she becomes her reputation’s own worst enemy. This woman is generous and well-meaning, but operates in a thoughtless state of hyper-drive.  She talks more than she listens and blurts out instant solutions to everyone’s challenges and requests. She is a chatty, impulsive know-it-all; one of those over-eager people who, let’s be …

Theme du jour: Little by little matters

Every morning as I sip my first cup of coffee, I get caught up on my favorite blogs.  Nothing spectacular about that, really, except that today I noticed something different: a connecting theme in every blog I read. Ever notice how that happens? Maybe it’s something all three bloggers heard or saw on the news that prompted them to write about similar topics. Or maybe this time it was just me who saw the similarities.  I was open to seeing them.  Ever notice how that

Expanding the possibilities as you network

In observing others and working with my coaching and consulting clients, I often see two extremes: 1) people who believe networking is primarily about bringing in new customers and 2) people who think networking is purely a matter of “getting out there and meeting people” and then seeing what happens.

Neither approach is wrong. However, there are advantages to being more multidimensional and purposeful about it.   Yes, networking is critical to growing our businesses and expanding your career.  But value also comes in forms that …

Connecting through conversation

I had a delightful telephone conversation this morning with a perfect stranger.  Now, for some of you, especially you introverts, that may sound like a complete oxymoron. (Ok, I admit it. If I were to list my Top 10 Favorite Things to Do, having a conversation with a stranger probably would not make the cut.) But there was absolutely nothing uncomfortable about this visit.

Why? For starters, the mutual friend who introduced us did so very thoughtfully and strategically, noting that both of us …

How to earn Networking Loyalty

Ever wonder what separates average networkers from those who become trusted must-have connections – your “Twenty-Percenters”, as I refer to them in my presentations? Here are 5 key steps.  (Warning: they are surprisingly simple, but they are not easy.  It takes hard work and diligence to do them well and consistently.)

  1. Pay attention to –  and do  – the little things.  Return phone calls. Show up on time. Be polite and gracious. Have and demonstrate integrity.  Walk your talk.  Do the right thing