Category Archives: law of attraction

The surprising power of what is true

In his book A Moveable Feast, the great American writer Ernest Hemingway, admits to the struggle that even the most devoted and talented writers face: what to write.

“…sometimes when I was starting a new story and I could not get it going, I would sit in front of the fire and squeeze the peel of the little oranges into the edge of the flame and watch the sputter of blue that they made. I would stand and look out over the roofs of

When, where and how should I network?

Now there’s a loaded question.  It’s one I get asked a lot, particularly by people who are in a frantic state about their careers and businesses, are new in town, or are new to the whole notion of networking.  If you want a traditional answer on which networking events you should consider attending, read Chapter 7 in my book The Intentional Networker.  It offers some specific and valuable insights on networking and standing out in the crowd.

But this isn’t meant to be a commercial …

Networking lessons from an art show – Part 1

Do networking lessons happen everywhere? Absolutely, if you’re open to them. And when you are, it’s amazing what you can learn, who you can meet and connect with, and how pivotal and powerful the experience can be.

Take the art show I attended this past weekend.  As my friend Lisa and I wandered through the show, perusing booth after booth filled with extraordinary paintings, photography, jewelry, glass, ceramics and other treasures, we found ourselves enjoying not only the items on display, but also our exchanges …

Networking make you anxious? Uncomfortable?

A few days after presenting to a group of exceptional college students I received very sweet, appreciative thank you note from several of them. One student wrote,

“…I had no idea what it truly meant to network. I assumed it was having awkward conversations in hopes of getting a job.”

Have you ever felt this way? You could even swap out the phrase “getting a job” and add in “finding new clients or prospects”, “meeting new and interesting people”, “making new friends” or “finding …

Is the problem with customer service? Or with the customer?

I’m going to toss out a theory and see if it sticks: How you treat service personnel directly reflects your ability to connect effectively, positively, and memorably in your other interactions, including those that take place in networking settings.

Sound crazy?  Maybe. Maybe not.

In my book The Intentional Networker™ I tell the story of how Zappos, a company known for its stellar customer service, initially gauges any job applicant’s hireability. It’s as simple as this: how did you treat their shuttle driver?  If you …

Let’s talk about it

Today I’ll attempt to keep my post short and sweet. Not because I don’t have a lot to say, but because I want you to spend more time thinking about it than reading about it.

The topic?  Your conversations.  (Yes, I know I wrote about this topic back in August, but this post offers yet another twist.)

While attending an NSA Austin event this past week a woman at my table, someone relatively new to the group, commented that she really liked our meetings …

After “no” it’s time for “yes”

If you’ve read my book The Intentional Networker™ you may recall Chapter 5. It’s all about saying a gracious, but firm ”no thank you” to anyone or anything that keeps you from what you really want.  You know what I’m talking about here:  the energy-drainers, the time-suckers, the boredom-inducers, the joy-robbers, the regret-makers, the resource-wasters, the fill-in-the-blankers for anything that makes you sad, less-than, tired, crazy, or unproductive.  What could you say "yes" to now?

Saying “no” can be a powerful and novel idea; especially if up until now you’ve operated in …

Ebook giveaway: The Intentional Networker(tm) on Kindle

First, I hope all of you are headed into a Labor Day Weekend filled with fun, relaxation, family time, quiet time, or whatever it is you’re seeking.

Second, if curling up with your Kindle is on the agenda, here’s a free offer you won’t want to miss:

Today and tomorrow only (August 29 & 30)  go to Amazon and download the Kindle edition of The Intentional Networker: Attracting Powerful Relationships, Referrals & Results in Business absolutely FREE.  No catch.

Who should read this book?  Anyone

Are you experiencing conversation? Or just chatter?

While attending several events over the last few months I absorbed some powerful lessons about socializing and networking. And ironically the lessons were taught to me by the introverts in the room — or as a by-product of my own occasional introverted tendencies.

One lesson came in the form of a question:  When interacting with others, are you in conversation –real conversation that allows you to connect? Or are you just engaged in mindless chatter?

Chatter? Or conversation?

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One introvert I conversed with …

Are you stuck in a self-imposed rut?

Ever been in a situation where you saw only one way to reach your goal, it just wasn’t working, and you couldn’t find a solution? My dog Maggie alerted me to a situation like this recently. I was working in my home office and heard her barking out in the back yard. It wasn’t her crazed, “Squirrel!!!” bark. It was her “Something’s up! Come quickly!” bark.