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From random to relationship

It’s a message I share with my clients and audiences over and over again:  good networking is an attitude, not an event.  It’s about treating all people, all conversations with respect and grace, even if you’re not sure what – if anything – will come from it. From there, things often fall into place, especially if you do your part (following up, for example).

For instance, have you ever had a seemingly random conversation that turned into a hugely important relationship or offered you an …

And we wonder why nothing is happening…

Sometimes I feel like knocking my head against the wall.  And it’s because the most important answers are often the most elegant and obvious.  Problem is, we are often so caught up in our own heads, To Do Lists, and busy schedules, we don’t see the obvious or the big picture.

Not a good place to be if you’re trying to Live, Work  & Connect at a Higher Level(tm).

That’s exactly what happened to me this morning.  I was working on a document that had …

Networking: It’s about patience, courtship & value

“What’s the next question?”

That was the assignment I gave my audience during a recent presentation.  They had just completed a short reflection assignment as well as a group discussion regarding how they could best benefit from the conference they were attending – and how they could build, diversify, and leverage their professional networks once they returned home.

Why that question?

It’s been my experience that before you can find the right answer(s), you need to identify the right question(s).   (And if you …

How to jumpstart a stalled, stale network

It was the room in my home I avoided at all costs.  What the room held captive was terrifying and vile.  You know the room (or closet or corner or other storage space) I’m talking about: that extra space that becomes the depository for extra…stuff.  Boxes and boxes, pile after pile of stuff.

You know how this happens.

First you stack one pile of things in there. Just to get them out of the way. Or because there’s no place to put them and company …

Creating a more intentional life and circle

This past weekend proved to me the beauty and endlessness of the Circle of Life. All in a 24 hour period I experienced several important life events:

  • Dear friends welcoming into the world their first grandchild, a highly-adorable bundle of pink cuteness
  • The beautiful and poignant memorial service celebrating the too-short life of the son of another dear friend
  • The 65th birthday party of yet another dear friend (planned and hosted, mind you, by a woman who will be “only 93” in a few weeks).

Dear Introverts

I’m writing to you today because I want to tell you how much I appreciate – and understand – you. And because I have a few thoughts and ideas that might help you converse and connect with greater effectiveness, ease, and confidence. So here goes. 

  1. Give yourself some credit and believe in yourself.  I have numerous friends who are introverts (I’m half introvert myself) and regularly meet with, speak to, and coach them.  They are some of my favorite clients and friends!  One gentleman I

A tale of synchronicity

True story. I did not make this up. It’s a crazy-cool tale of synchronicity and the power of taking a moment to reach out to people you know and enjoy.  In this case that person is my friend Merv.

Merv is a fellow professional speaker and consultant. He’s from New Mexico, and we know each other via the National Speakers Association. We both serve on NSA’s Chapter Leadership Committee, which is a group of past chapter presidents who are hand-picked to help train the incoming …

Networking Lessons from the BP MS150

Valuable lessons about networking – and life – can come from unexpected places. I learned and was reminded of this as I participated in – no, scratch that – endured this year’s BP MS150 cycle ride from Houston to Austin, Texas. This ride, the largest of its kind in North America, raises awareness and funds for the treatment and cure for MS.

Here are a few of those lessons:

  1. It pays to be well-prepared. I’ve done this ride a few times and compared to previous

Three words that can improve how you Live, Work & Connect – Part III

In my last two posts, Part I and Part II of this series, you learned two words that came from other cultures, but are so pertinent to where you live now – wherever that is. Today I’m sharing the third one – and throwing in a fourth that I wrote about awhile back. Just as a refresher and a little lagniappe. (Ah, there’s a fifth word you should know! It means “a little extra” or “something given as a bonus or a gift.”)

Today’s …

Three words that can improve how you Live, Work  & Connect – Part II

If you read last week’s post you learned the first word in this series. Now on to the next word, which is the Hawaiian word ono.  Don’t get this ono confused with the other ono: “the significant other of a band member who often sits in on band practice, much to the annoyance of other band members.”

Hah. You may not get that one if you’re under the age of 45.  (And I threw in the Elvis photo to throw you off.)

I might …