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Powerful strategies for better conversations

One of the things I love most about my work is getting people together to learn about and enjoy good conversation. This, in turn, often leads to a number of benefits for those who participate in my sessions.  These benefits include:

  • Learning what “good” conversation really is and what it feels like
  • Meaningful connection or even a new friendship. (You can call this “networking” if you wish, but I think it’s much more powerful.)
  • A tidbit of critical information.
  • A potential solution to a vexing

What we wish we knew then: 27 bits of advice from seasoned leaders

For those of you who are adults: Remember what it was like back in your early 20s? The excitement, the possibilities, the ability to stay up late (having fun) and get up early (and still get some work done)?  (Boy, those days are pretty history in my life!)

For those of you in your 20s: Excited about your future?  You should be!  So much potential and so many possibilities in the years ahead.

Along those lines, I had the pleasure of presenting an interactive session …

The stresses – and benefits – of change

I had just returned from a wonderful vacation when I heard the earth-shattering news. My gym, a privately-owned facility ranked among the best workout facilities in the nation, had been purchased by a larger publicly-held corporation.

“Oh no!” I thought. The place I love so much (and spend so much time in) is going to change! My beloved gym is going to lose its personality, sense of community, and possibly even its great classes, instructors, and friendly staff.  It’s going to turn into just another

Powerful – yet simple – advice on living and connecting well

Every year I re-do the big bulletin board in my office; the one my friend Cindy had made for me several years ago.  It’s three-and-a-half feet tall and four-and-a-half feet wide. Huge and surrounded by a magnificent frame, much like the kind you’d put around a masterpiece.  This bulletin board begs to be put to important use; to showcase big ideas, important memories, and inspiring notes.  I post my annual vision board here, as well as favorite photos, my latest speaking engagement schedule, advice I’ve …

Where could you use a refresh?

     Do you have a morning ritual? Besides coffee and some reading and writing, mine includes giving my dogs a walk around my neighborhood.  Julia Cameron, creator/author of “The Artist’s Way,” insists daily walks can give us valuable insights. I couldn’t agree more. Today’s walk proved to be no exception.
     As the dogs and I meandered down a favorite street, we passed a brick one-story that features a small bay window. I’m guessing this window is over the kitchen sink.  I have a window similar to

11 Strategies for Hosting an Epic Wine Tasting Party

I’ve never seen my dogs so tired. No, we hadn’t gone on a 5-mile hike. Nor had the pups been out chasing squirrels all day. They were wiped out because the night before my sweetie and I threw a little wine-tasting party. There were people coming and going throughout the evening. There was lots of good food to mooch. And there was lots of good conversation and boisterous laughter that prevented the dogs from getting to bed at their usual hour.  

By the time the …

A Networking Success Story: Four on Friday

Sometimes my readers, audience members, clients, and even friends and family take my advice and (eureka!) get fantastic results. This is one of those times, so I think it’s worth sharing here.

To begin, here’s a question I’m frequently asked when I present or when I work with coaching clients: “How can we get our staff more connected with each other without it being weird or awkward?”  This is an excellent question because any team works more productively, more effectively, more creatively, and with a …

How to exit conversations graciously

Ever wish you could exit, escape from, or even avoid a conversation? I don’t mean the difficult ones where it’s necessary to speak the uncomfortable truth, face the elephant in the room, clear the air, make a confession, or talk through a problem or stressful situation. I mean the conversations (or as my witty friend Mike Robertson calls them, “non-versations”) that take place in social settings or as you are going about your life or work and, for whatever reason, you feel trapped. It’s not …

Are your networking signals thoughtful and accurate?

Most of us have pet peeves when it comes to other people, especially other drivers. One of mine is when people don’t use their signal lights properly. Grrrr!!  You know exactly what I’m talking about.  A few examples:

  • The driver who passes you, then darts back into your lane with no signal, cutting you off.
  • The would-be race car driver who goes 15 mph faster than everyone else and then swoops jauntily across several lanes with no signal.
  • The person who

Declare your networking independence

July is a month where we recognize, appreciate, and celebrate the many freedoms we enjoy as Americans.  I’d like to suggest that one of the freedoms we enjoy be — hello! — how you network.

And if you really hate that term, as many do (I can tell  by the eye-rolling, nose scrunching, and overall cringing), allow me to suggest this:  start the process of declaring your networking independence by ditching the term.  Try using another term in its place.  How about one of these? …