Author Archives: pattid

Resource, referral or recommendation?

You’ve probably experienced this: you’re working on a big project, facing a challenge, or simply in need of specific expertise. You need help and don’t know where to turn. So you reach out to a friend or colleague for advice on what to do.  She offers what sounds like a hearty recommendation.

“Oh,” she says, sounding supremely confident. “You need to call So-and-So.”

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So you do, thinking it will be a great fit; that the challenge will be solved with great results.  …

Creating more engagement, delight, authenticity

“Hmmm,” she said, putting her index finger pensively to her lips and tilting her head as she considered my project. After what seemed like forever — but was likely only a few brief seconds — she looked at me knowingly over her reading glasses and said gently, “It needs a surprise. Something unexpected. Then it will be more interesting. More memorable.”

“She” was Ms. Zontelli, one of my college art professors; a quirky, brilliant, and unpredictable force of nature with pale, glowing skin and long, …

Pets and people: how humans connect (or not)

Sometimes we make small, but significant social blunders. And I am going to admit here that I’ve made this one repeatedly.   Maybe you have, too, and will be able to relate.  Then we can figure out what the deal is – and hopefully course-correct together.

Here’s the story:

Most people who have dogs walk them and take them out in public regularly.  This is good, because dogs are generally social creatures and are so much happier ̶  and likely to take good long naps  ̶  …

How to get more done & push through challenges

My heart was pounding. I was gasping for breath. I could see the sweat beading off my hands and feel it dripping down my back. It was hellish.

But, hey, that’s how endurance spin class feels when you’re really giving it your all. And based on the numbers on my heart monitor, that’s what I was doing.

“It’s right… about now,” she said, “that… you won’t …have any tolerance… for negativity of any kind…in your mind …or coming from anyone… around you.”

“She” is Allison, …

Expert? Thought leader? Or just rich, resourceful networking?

As a lifelong learner and chronic observer, I love the discussions and debates that take place around the terms thought leadership and expert. Some insist that unless you present yourself to the world with one of those labels, you’re not really legitimate. And the material you present isn’t really valid. You’re not valuable or a professional.  You’re not worthy.

Is this really true?

What exactly IS thought leadership anyway? I remember when I first heard that term about 10 years ago and actually …

The vital artistry of pacing and patience

We’ve turned the corner into the New Year. It’s a fresh start; a clean slate. So naturally it’s a perfect time for many – perhaps even you – to make some resolutions or set some lofty goals regarding changes you want to make in your world.  Perhaps you want to make more money, get a new job or seek out better clients. Or maybe you’re ready to let go of unnecessary clutter, manage your time better, read more, meet more people, expand or bolster your …

Lessons on can and can’t

Now and then I take the opportunity to share a post that’s more of a personal story than a lesson about networking, connecting, and other more business-y topics. It’s not that I’m all that interesting; it’s just that I do some things that are more along the lines of….bone-headed. Perhaps even entertaining. Some of these stories may contain a few pearls of wisdom. This is one of those stories.

It was 6:10 p.m. on Sunday evening in early December. I was dressed in a favorite …

By popular demand: networking tips & tools

If you’re reading this it means you’re serious about becoming a more Intentional Networker; someone who’s ready to network better, rather than just networking more. (Who has time for networking that doesn’t work and takes up more of your precious time, energy and resources?)  You’re also ready to be more purposeful, polished, present, and productive as you connect with others. You’re ready to utilize powerful strategies with greater ease and confidence; strategies that actually attract awesome people who are right for you and …

Great news! And you’re the first to know!

Today’s post is so much more than a mere post. And you are among the first to hear about it!

Drum roll please:  …

Don’t take the shortcut

Things like this have never made sense to me:  Crash diets. Fitness boot camps. Write-your-book-in-one-weekend seminars. And people who network as if there will be no tomorrow.

Allow me to elaborate.

No shortcutsCrash diets: They just make you miserable. You feel deprived and droopy. Sure, you might drop a size in a day or two. But likely the weight won’t stay off. And you’ve totally messed up your metabolism in the process. Which means you just might gain even MORE weight back. Ugh. Who wants that? …